Welcome back to the Real Life Momz podcast. It's time to take a break from all your to dos and take time for yourself. I'm Lisa Foster, your host, and we are turning inwards to uncover why we show up as the moms we are. And here to guide us today is fellow mom, Amanda Curry, She is a trauma informed doctor of physical therapy.
She is a breathwork facilitator and inner child and reparenting coach. And she has a passion for helping parents learn how to be with their own emotions so they can be present for their kids. Welcome to the show, Amanda. It's so great to have you here. Yeah, it's so good to be here. Every time I see we found each other on Podmatch, shout out to Podmatch.
And every time that there would be someone in the queue that was supporting, speaking to you know, moms, I was just like, yep. Please. Yep. Would love to. And I tell so many people that we are the silent epidemic is the moms that are [00:01:00] overworked, overfilled, overwhelmed. And so any and all opportunities to support
And I, I loved your comment actually, when you reached out to me, cause you're like, Oh, I love your podcast. And it was just like, ah, and we had so much in common. You you're a physical therapist. I'm a physical therapist, but we really both kind of transformed our practices to do other things with it.
So that really resonated with me, but I'd love to hear your story about that. What really inspired you to go from being a more traditional physical therapist to doing more of this coaching work and inner child work? Yeah. Yeah. So, and I love that you touched on that because I think that both of our stories are testaments to you get to pivot at any point in your life and that you may be down a road that is In the vein of your gifts and in the essence of like what you're called to do, but there are these slight little like turns and twists that really bring you home.
If you're feeling called to listen to those little [00:02:00] nudges They bring about so much freedom in the ability to be like, I don't have to have it right all the time. And I get to kind of blossom and evolve into who I was made to be and who I was made to serve. And so really, I was one of those people that I felt very gifted and in the form of just service.
So like, even as a high schooler, like I felt like, honestly, I was really glad that I was one of those people that knew, okay, I want to do something in the medical field, but I And it was basically between athletic training and physical therapy and Yeah, it was, it was something to where I was in an, in a sense playing out what I thought that I should do in the form of going to a four year school, going and getting my doctorate, getting the nice house, getting married early, like, you know, the Southern dream.
And it wasn't until I really became a mom that I was faced with all of these things that I had been running from. And it was really this pivotal [00:03:00] moment of I was a dumpster fire and I was trying all of the traditional things to get me out of that. And , I'm very teachable. I'm very coachable.
I'm, I'm very confident that I can put in the effort for whatever is needed. And, and that wasn't getting me where I wanted to be. And so the only thing that kept me going was this little nudge of like, there's something else to keep going. And I think that's probably what we both kind of clung to when we knew like, okay, I'm not meant to necessarily be a physical therapist, but what, what is that, that other lane that I'm going to shift in?
And I very much encourage women to do that in any area of their life. It's like that little whisper that you hear, like, keep just being curious about it. So in that heating of the inner knowing of the, there's something else keep going. The biggest transformational healing just dropped into my lap, literally in the form of podcasts, which is also why I'm passionate about podcasts.
And, you know, It was from my now mentor who was explaining something called inner child [00:04:00] healing and reparenting and how your mother and father learning, not wounding, but learning has shaped who you are today. And I was like excuse me, what is this? Why have I never heard of this? And I would like more, please.
And so that started really this, I hate to say this spiral, but like getting to the root of all the things that I had been trying to confront but pretty much avoiding and yeah, it's where my transformation began and it's what brought me to the place that I am today in supporting women in the modality that I first was introduced to.
And so, yeah, that led me a little bit more away from physical therapy. I do still I'm a contractor for a pediatric oncology hospital here. But yeah, it, my heart called to those people that really needed me and that was moms that were like me. That we're lost and that we're overwhelmed. And so yeah, that's where I basically started and how I have become the [00:05:00] person and the facilitator. That I am today. Well, I love it. And it does resonate with me a lot , too, because that little whisper for me, I didn't even know the whisper.
It was kind of like I fell into it. You know, someone was doing a technique and I was like, Oh, it was a non believer in it. I was like, what are they doing? And then I just decided to try it. And it not only is what I'm doing now, but it the transformed me as well. Like it totally transformed my life of like how I just.
Like you said, show up in the world. You know, I was always somebody who needed to make sure I had all the right answers. Like I think as a physical therapist or anybody in the health field, right? Like you need to have an answer for the thing, right? Like someone has a problem, you need to show up and know what you're saying.
And. That never fit really well with me there was almost like this anxiety that grew inside me to have that correct answer to always be right, whether it was in my profession or just personal life. And when I met cranial sacral [00:06:00] therapy it was all about the listening of the body and that fluidity.
Yeah, and that we already knew the answers, it was already in us, and so we just had to trust and listen, really. And when I, learned that, like, oh my God, I don't need to, like, know the answers. The person on my table knows the answers. I don't have to come with them. I'm just listening to the answers.
And it was just really transforming and allowed me to even be honest with the patient and say, listen, I'm following you. I don't know. I don't know, but let's find out together. Let's figure it out together. And it became this beautiful journey for everybody involved. So yes, listening to that whisper and, and following it, I think is so important.
Yeah. And you touch on really the beginnings of a topic, which we will not get into today because we could do a whole other podcast on the five personality patterns by Steven Kessler. And one of those patterns being the rigid pattern. So in times of stress or trauma that you go into a rigidity, that you are safe in [00:07:00] structure, you are safe in a black and white, a right and wrong, and that is what dictates and rules your life.
And so that's why a lot of us. Excel in certain careers and certain you know, academic settings because we are, we have been conditioned. We learned from mom or dad that safety comes within predictability and safety comes within following rules. And so that is where that right and wrong, that very structured, rigid, I very, that is my primary goal.
personality pattern where that comes from. And that is in, in connecting with women, I will start to hear and see those patterns come online and be able to ask them like, so who modeled this to you? Like, where in your life is this also ruling you? And where do you feel that maybe this began? And a lot of them are like, Oh, wow.
I don't, I, I had to put the dishes away a certain way always, or I was yelled at, or, you know, the clothes weren't hanging in my closet exactly how [00:08:00] they were supposed to, or the homework had to absolutely be correct before turning it in. And you just, you start to see that learning and how that served you to a point, but now you're an adult.
And it's not serving you because now you are yelling at your spouse because they aren't fully cleaning the dishes before they put the dishwasher in, or they put them in the dishwasher, or you're being overcritical of your kids homework, or what they do in sports, or honestly, most often, Or I would say, always, you're being hypercritical to yourself internally.
It's the self deprecation. It's the, like, I can't ever get it right. It's all of that that is still lingering from decades ago that you get to unpack, accept, and then unlearn. Yeah, I have a feeling I haven't unlearned because as much as I've changed, I know I've done work and I've changed, but just listening to you, I'm like, oh, habits, like when things go [00:09:00] awry, like that rigidity, oh my God, comes in that control that like, okay, if I could just do it, this, this, this, that I'm going to get past it. Yeah, what can I control? What can I hold on to? Usually we can insert rage cleaning then too. It's like, you know, you're having a fight is brewing with your partner and what do you do? You start scrubbing the counters and it's like now my husband can be like, you're doing the thing, babe.
Do you want to sit down and talk about that? And I was like, I'm Yeah, I would love to do that. Let's go and sit and talk about this. So we all get into it. It's, it's a pattern that is, it's, it's about closing the loop is like, can we collapse the timeline? And what I also love about that book, if anybody does go check that out is it highlights Not only the shadow, but the gifts of it.
So like we can be efficient AF and like, we can like get a timeline together of what our vacation is going to look like. And we can, you know, help our kid map out, you know, what they're going to do for their first college semester or whatever it is. Like there are so [00:10:00] many gifts to it, but it's like being more aware of when that's coming online as a protector instead of as.
A helper. Oh, yes. I'm going to have to read that. That's going to be up on my list. Yeah. Can you explain though, a little bit more about what is somatic and inner child work? Yeah. So I, I have been getting a lot more lately. women in my DMs on Instagram of like, what is this somatic work that people are talking about?
And like, they're talking about somatic breathwork and they're talking about somatic yoga and they're talking about all these things. And basically you've probably heard this most people a million times of like, Soma means the body and, and the body, but not just the body, but the mind and the spirit. And it is, it is all of that.
And really, I feel like in the generalization, we have Less than the less than the potency of it is really, yes, the combination of all of those, but it is a really, really sacred presence [00:11:00] to what is going on in all facets of your being. And a lot of that we have the mind down. We've had the mind down for.
Probably our entire life. And it's about the, the soul, the essence, our inner knowing. We talked, we've touched on that already and what is going on in your body. And from my experience, that is the biggest missing piece that breath work and yoga and all of these somatic tools bring in is more awareness, more capacity of what is going on on a body level, on a sensation level, something we sometimes call felt sense.
So like I'm sensing something. I feel anxious that feels like constriction and tightness in my chest and it's black and it's like about the size of a bowling ball and it, and it goes into like this very nuanced, very specific description and feeling into and holding. witnessing what is going on within the body.
I'm getting excited. And so that really is the [00:12:00] somatic piece. Now, when you combine somatic and inner child or somatic and reparenting, there are so many resources out there to connect with your inner child journaling and, and Having a picture of you as a child going out to a store and, and buying a candy that you never had to have, like connecting in that way, the work that I do and facilitate is a somatic, like, inner child reparenting in the sense that we are getting into the body, feeling into the felt sense, and connecting that to your inner child's previous experience, but also what is going on within.
Because every time that you have an emotion, whether it is, you know, you are, happy, horny excited, whatever is like on the expansive side, blissful, really connected, or you are really depressed, really anxious, really frustrated, grieving, like all of that is an extension and a projection of something that's happening for your inner child and with your inner child.
And so [00:13:00] that is the present day of like checking in with the inner child, but the reparenting a lot of the time will happen With something that's occurred a long time ago that you get to drop into the body and essentially like rewrite that script of what happened so that you have options going forward, new truths, new awareness is new affirmations, but not on a mind level on a body level, something that you can like feel.
And so that's really the difference that really makes sense. And it pulls a lot together for me because as a cranial sacral therapist what happens with me is like a lot of people when they have anything happen, they're, you know, suffering from an illness, an injury, whatever they come in for, there are different kind of feelings within the tissue that can almost feel while we're palpating, you know, it could be a nervous, anxious, angry, and there's different kind of levels of tone to their feeling of their body.
And it's interesting, because then something might come up subconsciously for them, just comes to their conscious mind. And something may have happened in the past, maybe it I'm going to even say it may even be their [00:14:00] inner child, you know, coming out and some people say it is right.
And they're like, I don't understand, I've dealt with this. You know, I've gone to therapy. I've talked through and did all this stuff. And I said, Well, it's still in your tissue. We haven't released it in the tissue. So yeah, you did all that work. And that's great. But now let's also release it from here. So I love that you add that piece.
Because that sounds like what you're doing as well, right? Absolutely. When you are going through these, this coaching, you're not just doing it through this mental piece and conscious piece, you're doing it through the body itself. Hundred percent. And you can tell the difference. I have clients that I know when they have been able to progress through all the five stages of healing.
Because. You, you could not convince them otherwise that it is safe to share their emotions with others when they have cleared that from their body. I mean, I have had, I have had clients like stand up and like scream it from like their second story apartment. Like you just, you can't not feel that exchange of energy and that, that [00:15:00] clearing of the old.
And that's when you know that there has been more of that. Like cellular change where that neuroplasticity is like actually being rerouted and completed. And it's just, it's a, it's a powerful thing to watch because exactly what you said before, it is them doing it. We are just the facilitators. We are just the space holders when they are able to like in their autonomy, find their way in that.
It is. Woo. Yeah. Yeah. It's incredible to watch. It's powerful. Yes. Because I also find that they feel, it was like the thing they needed, right? They feel so much better. Whatever the symptom was, it's like not about the headache or the, you know, it's not about that. It's like those deeper things are really just holding them back from just feeling better even just physically.
Yep. Yep, absolutely. So, how, how do people even recognize they need this work? I don't know if I would look up inner child, [00:16:00] you know, parenting, like, how do you know you need it? That's a really, really great question because I, and I would say a majority of people don't necessarily come and say, I need inner child work.
It's I have tried all of these things and I can't quit yelling at my children every morning or I feel really unsafe connecting with my partner whom I know that I love and is a safe individual, but I can't. I can't like slow my mind down enough to be intimate with them. Really not sadly, but like surprisingly, cause I think we always in our mind are like, we're the only ones that struggle with this.
A lot of women want to connect more vulnerably and intimately. on an energetic level with their kids and they feel a block. And so they know intuitively like the inner knowing, like there's something there, like there's, I should be able to do this. And so for the large majority of women, I find there is two things.
They either are having a huge difficulty [00:17:00] identifying, like you said before, or feeling their emotions, allowing them to feel emotion and sensation. Or if they are really good feelers, which if you get the book, you'll be able to tell who are the over feelers or the feelers that they're just Feeling is not their block.
It is the judgment associated with their block or with their, with their feeling is that this is wrong. I am wrong. This is shameful. I shouldn't feel this way. And so those are really the first starting steps That we, that we work to address is really just like, are you feeling anything?
What are you feeling? How can we cultivate more safety in your system to allow your body to let you feel? And then those that are like open floodgates, like, can we bring more loving awareness, more witnessing, more acceptance to that space? Once again I go back to it's such powerful work
now you have so many tools. I know you talk a little bit about breath work as one of them.
So what are these tools that can kind of help just with the [00:18:00] processing of this work? Yeah. Yeah. Breathwork being the main one that I utilize and support clients with. It was so transformational for me on my journey because I was one that felt a lot of things. I was very good at stuffing a lot of things, but I had a lot to let up.
And so for me, because I was so cognitively locked in, the only way that I could drop into my body and let things start. Coming out and flowing and emoting, moving is through breath work because the, the parts of your brain, which I will not nerd out on you tonight, but like the parts of your brain that are, that are lit up and accessed are ones that are, are the key to letting that out, to letting the grief out that you didn't get what you needed when you were five or six or a teenager.
They, they allow you to let up and out when someone left you and abandoned you. They get to even let out when you were raped or when you were [00:19:00] abused or when you, like, whatever it is, the breathwork is something that allows you to access. What your mind is saying, no, no, no, no, no, we can't go there. And so that is the biggest component for, again, what we talked about earlier, bringing up the feeling and being able to hold it without judgment, because I truly believe that the emotions and the energy that come up from your system, it's uncovering things so that you can access your, your essence.
And so with any. Trauma informed or trauma trained practitioner, you are going to be held in a safe space to where when you get to that other side, that you actually feel the expansiveness and the openness. And it doesn't just become this cathartic loop that is just serving someone else's ego. And so I put that little caveat in there because a lot of people are seeing a lot of breathwork practitioners and breathwork videos and all the sexy breath and people like coming off tables and all sorts of crazy stuff.
And I facilitate breathwork. Once a month. And I have people that literally I'm like, are they even breathing? What is [00:20:00] going on? And they get up and they're like, that was one of the most incredible experiences of my life. And I know that they have so much more to go in that, but if that got them even 10 percent closer to their heart space and to feeling and sensing more emotion and sensation in their body.
Awesome. So that is, that's a really big component and it can be breath work. That's more active. That helps to elicit some of those emotions. It can also be like a down regulatory breath where we are in fight or flight. We are in overwhelm and we need to come back to homeostasis. Like we need to come back to this really safe grounded energy.
And so yes, there's other tools vocalizations, movements, all of that. But really my particular. Expertise. And, and passion is in, is in breath work for sure. So is there any favorite technique that you'd want to share today? And I know everybody's different, so we're going to put that out there.
Totally. 100%. One and done. Yes. And, and find what works for you. For a lot of people, the upregulatory active [00:21:00] breath is Too much for their system. And I, I very much would caution people on doing some of those more active breath journeys alone. Find someone that you, again, this is coming up through this whole conversation of like trusting your inner knowing of, Trust the energy of the practitioner that you, whether you're doing it virtually or in person, you know, try some things out and just notice, like, do you feel held by this person?
Does it feel like a safe space? Do you feel like that you're fully supported? You know, like all of those things. So to go back and answer your question though I was introduced to breathwork at a particular retreat that I went to early on in my journey. And at that retreat, we did a bunch of different, we did like Wim Hof, we did Breath of Fire, we did Down Regulatory Breath, we did Ocean, we did all of it.
And so in that moment, I didn't have like a particular, this is my jam. I just experienced all of it. It was great. It was really expansive. And I came home and again, this is the trusting of the inner knowing and asking for what you need and whatever higher power you believe in trusting [00:22:00] that that is going to be brought to you in that request.
I got home and I was, we live in Memphis, Tennessee, and I was like, there is no breathwork around here. Like, how am I going to keep this up? So weird. Like I'm just, I just kind of like started to get into this defeatist mindset and I will be damned if the movement gym that I was going to was not going to a breathwork class literally two weeks later.
So I went to this class. McKenzie was facilitating and she is of the lineage of David Elliott, who is a two part active breath facilitator. He hasn't like coined or patent his way because That's a whole other story, but I went to one of her sessions. And I was like, this is it. This is, this is what I want to do.
This is, this is her style and the style of breath and the way that she, her playlists, like, it's, it's so much of the experience more than just the breath. And so for her, I very much like tethered. I was like, Oh, yep. This is, this is my person. And so what I have done is taken a flavor of David Elliott's style [00:23:00] and added some of my own components to it based on.
Values that I have and things that I feel like are supportive to the clients that are present for me. But the majority of the breath that I do, and that really, really resonates with my system is that two part active breath. And essentially it's a two part inhale. So you're inhaling through your belly and through your chest, and then you're just a passive exhale, let it go.
And you're doing that,
and you're doing it at whatever pace is good for you, but that is the type of breath that you're doing. And yeah, I can talk forever about just what those three components of breath have done to my life. But yeah, you're right. There is no like gold standard of breath. I did a somatic breath work journey.
On another retreat that I was just at in the last four months. And that was the Oh gosh, I'm going to get it messed up. They're from Austin and it's a somatic IQ. They may even be called somatic breathwork, but there was a facilitator there that was doing it. And wow. Wow. That was like a psychedelic trip.
So like I would, those are the types of journeys where I'm [00:24:00] like, if you've never done breathwork before, maybe stay away from that at first, because it is a somatic breathwork. I mean, it, it does a lot. And so again, do your homework. Some of these facilitators just reach out to them, ask questions. Like, I think that that's part of it too, that you'll get a vibe of if this is someone that you want to hold space for you simply by the conversation that you have, even if through, even if it's through Instagram.
But if anybody's interested that are listening, I do virtual breathwork sessions with groups once a month. So like you are more than welcome to check out my group, but I, again, autonomy, people get to choose. Their flavor.
Yeah, and even if you have questions, if you're like, Hey, I saw this Instagram page. What are your thoughts? I've had people reach out to me about that. Like, Hey, there's a, they're, they're like mutual friends or high school friends or college friends. And they'll be like, Hey, this is going to be in my area.
And I know you do breathwork. Like, what do you think? And I mean, I will give you my honest opinion or things that I would have you ask the facilitators of that event. Cause sometimes, you know, it's like going to a car shop. Like, I don't really know [00:25:00] what to ask. And I don't know. If they're saying what's really true or not.
So you know, I'm totally down to support her in that way as well. Amazing. So I know that you really obviously practice what you preach. So it's not like you're just teaching this work, helping others. You have done the work yourself. How do you feel that's kind of impacted your life just as a human and as a parent?
Yeah. So I think that the biggest times. that I see kind of the, the, I feel like I'm always watching myself backwards. So it's not necessarily like when I go upstairs and do breath work and come back down that I'm like, Oh, I'm doing such a good job. Like, Oh, this is, you know, like good for me. It's when I see my six year old daughter asked to go to her room to scream into a pillow and then come back out.
Or it's when I watch. My nine year old apologized to me later for being difficult. Or like we had a family meeting for the first time again, six and nine year old. So it's like, is this too early? We don't know. And we [00:26:00] literally sat there. and had a conversation as if we were adults. And for someone that grew up not having that, those are the moments when you're like, we're shifting.
Like the tides are changing. Like we have moved tracks and we are now on a completely different set of tracks. And I think that that's the biggest thing. keeps me leaning into the work. But just to completely be transparent, I think one of the biggest things is in this work, you become radically honest with yourself and others.
And so there are times, there are seasons when I get to give myself radical honesty of you are giving to everyone else and not to yourself. And you have this open heart. inner pull that you haven't spent enough time leaning into that sensation that came up during that session, or when your partner said, whatever they said.
And so I think that's the other gift too, is that it's, it's this inner accountability that is. Undeniable when you [00:27:00] have created this solid sense of self is like, you know what, you know, and there's no unknowing, unseeing, unhearing what you know is alignment. And is the way that you want to show up in the world.
And so, yeah, it's, it's such a wild ride. It's such a wild ride, like every twist and turn. And it's, It's worth it. Like a hundred percent. Full stop. And it's so beautiful that your children are seeing it and implementing it themselves without being necessarily taught it just because you're modeling it really modeling.
Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. That's a lot of questions that I get of like, well, I don't, I don't know. What I'm supposed to do about them being, you know, anxious at school, or I don't know what I'm supposed to do because they won't speak up in class. And I'm like, well, have you modeled it to them? And they're like, what do you mean?
And I'm like, well, have you shown them what it's like to like, stand up for yourself and to like, be radically honest with another in a really like gentle and present and transparent way, [00:28:00] or like, have they seen you cry lately and said, Hey, I'm having a hard day. I just want to let you guys know. No. Okay.
Well, let's. Let's try that first, you know because that's another big thing that I share with moms is that you can say all the right things to your children and they can feel the conflict when there's a difference. You can say like, Oh, you can do anything. Go out for that cheerleading squad. Like you're, you've got this.
And they can feel when you're like please don't mess up. Like what if she's not good enough? They can feel it. And so your responsibility is to own the work in having those messages align, both the energy and the words. And I love that. But like, we fall off, right? Like, I heard you also saying, when I catch myself, like, the beauty of, like, knowing all this stuff is knowing when I'm also falling off.
So we fall off. We fall off our, you know, this stuff all the time. 100%. What do you do to get back on? When you catch yourself and you're not in that alignment, what's your go to to, like, say, let me rein this back in? Yeah, so before I even [00:29:00] rein it in, what has been a game changer? And you don't even need to get a coach for this.
This will radically transform your life just if you are able to do what I'm about to tell you. When you have fallen off the wagon, when you just screamed at your kids to go to bed for the fifth time and they're still on their iPads, when you have snapped at your partner or played the ice queen. When you notice that you want to shift, can you first give love to the version of yourself that's showing up?
Because if you can't do that, like no one changes through shame. No one changes through that guilt. Or if they do, it's very, very leading. And so that is the biggest thing is that I always pause, I notice, yep, I'm in a response, I'm like trying to control everything and I'm trying to keep everything clean and everybody's annoying me and I'm being short.
And before I change anything, usually before I even name what I'm being is I say, and can I love this version of myself that's showing up? Like because if you can't, there is a block and that is you denying [00:30:00] really the inner child within you that is responding to a stress. That is responding to not being heard, to not being seen, to not feeling supported.
And so like identifying them in the situation first and saying, I see you. I love you in this mess. Let's course correct now. That's beautiful. I love that. I love that. Some such a simple question, right? Can I love myself in this version? Yes. Yes. And I honestly, I don't know that I was present to that until probably the last couple years of like, What is making this easier?
Do you know what I mean? Like, like, what is it about that? And it's, it's the, I can love myself in every version of me. Even the women that like come to my DMs and like, I'm tired of this. I'm terrible. It's like the first things again, that we do is like, can you love yourself in that version? And a lot of women, a lot of people have never been loved in their mess.
Yeah. And so that is very potent for them as well. Yeah. Or you like, you don't know that you can be loved in your mess even. Yeah. And that is usually [00:31:00] lets walls crumble for sure. Because you're like, Oh my God, like this is possible. And this feels so destabilizing yet so good to my heart because it's what I've always wanted.
Yeah, that's beautiful. I love your work. It's beautiful. So where can the listeners find you? I am most active, like I've talked about on Instagram. I am the somatic DPT. So our credentials are DPT. You know that, but your listeners may not. And so yeah, DMs through there and all of the information that you could possibly want to find is there.
There's a link there for my link tree. Again, I usually will connect with people there and that is the best way, but any form of communication that you find on there or my Facebook or anywhere else, I probably have my cell phone out there on Facebook. You never know. We're, we're wild, wild West in this thing.
So email, like if you, if there's a will, there's a way, but the most direct link is through Instagram. Great. And is there anything you want moms to kind of really take away from this podcast and start just doing today? Yeah, [00:32:00] I this has kind of been my anthem is that you get to have it all, that I don't, we have been sold this notion.
That we can't as women, everybody else can, we can't. And that I was thinking about this on my run the other day is having it all isn't maybe in the way that you imagined it, but it's having a little bit of everything that you need in that moment. That of which is. First and foremost, to have more contentment, more peace, more acceptance of who you are and how you're showing up.
And that even in the chaos, like even in the trenches, like zero to seven, you have kids, you're listening to this or you're in, you're almost an empty nester and your kids are moving out. Like you get to. Reparent yourself at any stage of the game, and that in and of itself is going to give you more, more connection, more pleasure, more passion, more contentment, and, and I just, people I've heard say to me, like, that is a pie in the sky, like you are selling people empty promises, and I, I call, I call bullshit on that, because [00:33:00] I feel like that I now have it all.
It's not that things are perfect. It's not that I'm sitting here in a McMansion, but I have everything that I've ever wanted. And I know that the things that come that I may want that are new are possible for me because I get to tend to myself first to create that. So that's really the biggest thing that I want to share with women, moms, anybody listening here.
Yeah, I think that's my new mantra. You know, you can have it all. And you're right. You can have it all. You'll have to define that for yourself. Like what I want all is not what you want all. So yeah, so I can have it all. Yeah. Yeah. I get to have it all. Well, thank you so much for just sharing your expertise, your insights.
It's definitely making me think differently and I'm super motivated to kind of dig a little deeper into my own system. Yeah. And thank you for having me. Thank you for hosting this. Like I, I just, again, like the permission to just say, I'm going to do this. I'm going to put a podcast out there. I'm going to support moms.
I just, I [00:34:00] really am thankful for all of the women that I've been connecting with through podcasts because your yes is something that is and probably has been and will continue to be. It's really, really impactful for someone out there. And you just don't really know that when you're signing up for this.
You're just like, I feel called. And I'm heeding the yes. I'm saying yes. And I'm putting action to that. So thank you.
Thank you for joining us for this episode. Please check out all the links in the show notes to all of the resources that Amanda talked about in this episode.
And until next week, keep carving out time for you. Because when you take care of yourself, you show up better for your children, yourself, and the world.
