welcome back to the Real Life Momz podcast, where moms come for inspiration and tools to create the life that they desire. I'm Lisa Foster, I'm your host, and today I'm here with Bridgit Norris. She is a leadership coach who uses a conscious and ethical approach to help her clients achieve success in both their business and personal lives.
She is known for her straight talking, no nonsense approach and her community. The revolt weekly, which serves as a support group for rule breaking individuals, looking for inspiration, guidance, and real talk Bridgit. It's so good to have you here on the podcast. Yes, I'm so excited. Thank you so much for having me.
I'm excited and also a little nervous about this, um, straight talk and rule breaking stuff. I tend to be a rule follower, so I'm excited you and see where it goes. That's funny because when we were talking before we talk about New [00:01:00] York and, um, most everybody from New York has pretty much that kind of hard shell rule breaking attitude.
So that is, it's interesting. I'm curious now. Yes. And it's funny because it's like, I want to be a rule breaker, but I'm not. My girlfriend is the same way. She's from Pennsylvania. She's like the straightest edge. Like it's, this is what it says. This is what we do. And I'm like, what? Come on. That's boring.
So I'm hoping to learn a little bit from you and I'm hoping all those other rule followers are about to learn a lot from you as well. So maybe you can start a little bit, just telling us about your own journey as a mom, as an entrepreneur and how you just kind of got on this path of helping others really reach their full potential.
Yeah, I think, um, this is the most fun thing for me to talk about because I think there's a lot, there's not a lot of people talking about it for women and I know that for me, I was ashamed to kind of say these things.
So I [00:02:00] always get excited to talk about it. So for me, I had my son, I have one son, he's now 24, but I had him when I was young. , which is great. But I was still moving up in my career. I was still doing corporate.
I was still trying to figure out how do I, you know, make the six figures in corporate? How do I move up? And somehow this goes into the rule breaking. ,I landed on deciding to work in construction, like on a construction site. Because women weren't doing that then. Like, this wasn't a thing. There was one woman on the job and she was an engineer and everyone gave her a hard time.
Like, everyone. And I'm like, you know what? I don't like it. So let me just try it. All the things that you say I can't do, I'm going to figure out how to do. Which I did. And so that's what I spent, you know, years moving up in a career to move out of that. And finally did. Finally established myself at a business.
And, I met my husband at my work. He decided to make a career move to a competitor, which meant I had to either quit [00:03:00] or decide what we were going to do. So I had to decide, you know, it was a decision we made together and said, okay, if you do this, I know I have to quit. So all of that built up of creating the salary and the position.
Um, I'm like, you know what? My son is five. I haven't really done the, you know, mom been able to do the mom thing. I can find a job that's less, that does, that takes less away. It's less pay. But even that in my mind was very hard to wrap my head around because you're like, I work so hard for this. What happens if, you know, we weren't married yet.
I'm like, all those things are going through your head. And I'm like, Oh, you know, do I want to do it? But it was important because I did, as a single mom prior to that, I didn't think I was ever going to get the opportunity to do the soccer mom stuff and to do the PTAs and to do those things. So I was like, let's do it.
So I did. It took me a little while to adjust and I'm not going to lie. There were times in there that I was like, regretting it. I was feeling like, you know, I can't tell my husband that I, I don't want to do this. I don't really prefer [00:04:00] to do this thing. Like, it just felt like things I shouldn't say, like I still wanted that successful career.
I just, I wanted both. And so it was just like a struggle internally for me. Um, but I, I, You know, did it. And then all of a sudden, and I say all of a sudden, because for those of you, moms who have older children, you'll understand it feels like all of a sudden, but I mean, he's 12 or 13. And finally I was like, Oh, Hey, let's do this or that.
And let me pick you up from here. And he's like, no mom, like, I don't want to hang out with you. And I'm like, What? I'm like, Oh crap. Like, what, what do I do now? Like my entire last, you know, 10 years has been about revolving around you, your schedules, your thing. You know, you're the Uber driver and the ATM and you know, the chef, all the things.
Now, what do I do? Like, what do I do with myself? Because I don't have that corporate job. That's 10 years later. I'm not as experienced now. Like, what am I supposed to do? That is what started the entrepreneurial [00:05:00] stuff for me because Facebook, I think was just coming about and network marketing was there and like, Ooh, what is this stuff?
Let me try this. Let me try network marketing. When I tell you I've done every single thing, trying to figure out what it was for me. Like what is going to be the thing for me? How do I find that? Um, I did everything. I opened up a brick and mortar fitness company for women. Um, I got a health coach certification.
I'm like, what is the things? I tried all these things. I even at one point in network marketing, I sold makeup and my husband's like, why are you selling makeup? You don't wear it. You don't even know what to do with it. And I'm like, I don't know. I'm trying to figure out what it is that I'm supposed to be doing.
And so it was a really, it was a struggle. I just didn't know. And then you start to feel like. I'm not good at anything. What I'm, you know, I don't, I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I have no purpose. What's my purpose? And then, of course, everybody who's here on the online space knows that can be consuming, like.
Find your purpose. Know what your purpose like. I didn't know which direction was up. [00:06:00] Um, and then I closed the brick and mortar fitness because it just became too much. And at the moment of me closing it, one of the clients actually said to me, you know, I love you. Thank you so much for all of this. I've really felt like you're, you have been more of a life coach to me than a fitness coach.
And I'm like. What is a life coach? I don't know what that is. That's a thing. And she's like, yeah, that's a thing. And I'm like, well, I really appreciate it. And then I immediately ran home and I'm like, Google, what is a life coach? And that started the, the understanding that like, It came clear, like I was really good.
That was what I really was excited about was really mentally helping people kind of break through the plateaus. It wasn't just about the fitness part of it. I didn't, it, you know, it doesn't matter how many pounds you were or lost. And so I kind of figured that out in that. But I mean, it was a long, that took a long time.
And when I tell you, it was like three, four years before I figured that out. And Still after that, you know, the last three years [00:07:00] is still figuring it out and it's still been a huge process. So I think the moral of the story of this is, is I think I tell people now, I tell my girlfriend, her daughter's five, figure out what it is that you want from your life.
If you're something you're passionate about, think about it now, do not wait until you wake up and she's 13. And she's like, I hate you, mom. Like, I don't want to be around you. Try to think about it now because. One, it won't make the process so long. And two, you can start thinking about the things now. And I could have been doing those things during that time.
Like I could have given some space for myself in between and I didn't, I just didn't do it. Well, kudos for you for a trying all those things. I mean, even starting like businesses where you're like brick and mortar, like starting a workout. Company or whatever it was. And I mean, that's so hard to have that confidence to go out and do that.
I don't think a lot of people actually do have that. And then the other thing is, it's [00:08:00] like, you know, I remember when my kids are small. Also, I was like holding a poster sign, like mom stayed home, mom. Like, I want to stay at home. Don't make me go back to work, dad. You know, like the little signs around the house.
And my husband's like, hell no, you hold insurance. You are going back. We are not in positions to do that. And. You know, I'm so glad I did because I do have friends who did stay home and getting that first step out the door like they don't know what to do anymore. They have like, they feel like even if they had a professional career, they feel like so far removed that yeah, they feel very lost.
So it is hard to. Get out there I'm not going to lie. It was hard. There was when I first opened the brick and mortar company, um, the fitness company and had classes and you announce it and you go to the space and nobody shows. There were plenty of times I went home crying and my husband's like, Oh, well, you know, you just got to give it some time and give it some time.
And I would just cry and be like, what's wrong with me? This, maybe this isn't the [00:09:00] thing. And I had to stick it out long enough for it. to, to be able to become a thing. And, you know, I'm glad I did, but yeah, it's definitely not easy. The no showing up is, is heartbreaking, right? When you have a business and it's like, you don't have enough people coming in the door or yeah, it's just like, where do I even find that?
Am I doing the right thing? So that's a great question. Like, first of all. How do you answer am I doing the right thing when you have a business say or you're going to a job and like no one's showing up or it's not, it's not getting to the point where you really want it to be. You know, I had to like allow myself to say, I don't know if this is the right thing and that's okay.
Like not to put so much pressure on myself to say, and it took a while to get to that. Like going through now, when I tell you it was probably 11, that's probably not a lot like 11 network marketing companies. Like this is not the thing. This is not my thing. I'm not good at [00:10:00] this thing. I'm not good at that thing.
And it became. It was a running joke for some people, but it was like, I just don't know what my thing is. And so when I got to the brick and mortar fitness, I'm like, I am passionate about these things. I'm passionate about helping
women, you know, do these things. So it was a little bit easier for me to stick it out a little longer to see if if this was the thing and.
I'm glad I did because essentially the fitness wasn't the thing, but it did lead me to the direction that I needed to go. So you got to allow enough time. If it feels like you're in the realm of this, I'm, I am passionate about this. Like this is kind of the thing, or if you're just totally off, like the makeup thing, like I should have known better.
It's not my thing. Like, I am not good at that. Don't ask me what color you should wear. That was like just complete, so, you know, you, you know inherently most of the time are just straight up, you know, those things I, I should have never forced. So I would say, if you know, deep down, it's not it, then.
You know, [00:11:00] don't, there's no reason to stick it out for any amount of time. I think just walk away from it and chalk it up to great. That was a great lesson. Don't do that again. So what was the feeling that when you knew it was the right thing? So the, the moment that you heard, okay, this life coach, okay.
Let me check that out. Like how, what was the feeling that you knew? Okay, this is it. This is what I want to do. So it was before the life coach introduction. It was during the time that once I had got a consistent group of women, it stayed a consistent group between, you know, 15 and 20 women. They kept coming back.
It was like year and it was only those women. And I just decided. I don't need to go out and try to make this bigger and bigger and bigger. These women, like, they're dedicated, they come, they love it. It was those women that were continuously telling me, like, how much they appreciate, , the confidence that I'm giving them, how much they appreciate me, and that they need, like, They I only did the class three days a week like that.
They lived for those three days and nothing stopped and they would bring their [00:12:00] little kids and say, you're just coming with me. I don't and there's no excuse that I can't come. You're coming. So it started during that and knowing that the responses to those things, the confidence, the strength. It wasn't about.
The fitness aspect as much as I thought it was in the beginning and so it kind of started then and then the solidification of the of the life coach thing was just me trying to one figure out what that meant. And then when I realized what it was and what you could do within that I'm like, Oh, okay, so it's the totally the mindset and the attitude.
And the confidence. Those are things that I've always connected with personally. And I'm like, so no wonder why those are the things that I'm connecting to in fitness, but I thought it was fitness. So inherently, I always tell women, usually it takes you right back to something you already have inherently.
And that it's something people look at you and go, Oh, but you know, you're so confident or you've always been so rebellious. Those are the things that you capitalize on, we just kind of forget about it when we get older. Somehow we lose [00:13:00] the concept of, of how that makes it important and a way that you can kind of help others.
So that's kind of how that, that really, and it didn't happen overnight. It was really something I had to like, allow myself to sit with and what is this and what does this mean and really understand it. Um, and now that I think about the process of it, so it wasn't like an instantaneous, like you're not just going to wake up and go, this is the thing.
. Don't expect that. And I think we're even when you find the thing I think you're still like fine tuning the thing right so it's never. Because we're always growing and changing. I do love that you said that there were like these 16, I think you said, women that kept showing up.
I love that it was small, right? Because I think a lot of times we look for these grandiose, like huge things that we have to do or seem like we have to live up to, but sometimes it is only a small group that is showing up consistently, and actually that is more than enough. [00:14:00] Yeah, and I think, especially like, the women here that are coming that are thinking about I want to coach or I have a coaching business, the online space wants to make us believe that if we don't have 100 women paying us a million dollars, that it's not successful.
I found that every time I've decided to run a group style program that I just keep it at 5,6,7 because. Even from the my first coaching program that I ever launched, I still have relationships with those people. It is not a, um, hear how you paid me. Hopefully you got a result. Goodbye. I don't I don't that's the conscious part of what's missing a lot in the coaching space these days.
So that's more important to me. And so I stick with that. I don't allow, you know, now and before I did, I can totally admit this is why we always say it's a process. I kind of allow the online space to kind of Seep in and try to dictate to me, like how I should be, what I should [00:15:00] do success looks like this.
And I had to kind of, you know, steal that back a little bit because it stifled who I was, the things I was saying, and how I was serving people. If it's not who you are, it's not who you are. And you have to stay true to that and own that. Oh my God, I'm eating this all up because in fact, today, this morning, I said to my husband, , I want to create something like maybe a course or something down the line, something else.
But I'm like, I want it small. I want to do something really small because I cannot be there For 400 people. I cannot be there for 100 people. I could be there for 5 to 10 people. That's who I can show up for. And, and really give value and feel valued in that. And, and it's just funny that you said that because you don't hear that a lot.
People go into these types of different work. Um, and they're and they're really thinking like, okay, well, if I'm going to create something, it's going to be [00:16:00] big, you know, and I'm going to try to serve all these hundreds of thousands of people. And at the end of the day, who can really do that?
I mean, I've been in courses like that, and yes, did I get value? Of course I did. I mean, I learned things, but did I, was I felt seen or heard? Not at all. Zero. You probably weren't coached by the person that you actually signed up to the program for, because that seems to be a new thing these days. I'll bring a million people in and have coaches that work for me, but I don't actually do anything anymore.
And you're like, wait a minute. I don't, I didn't pay to. Be coached by these random people. Um, so yeah, definitely a lot of it's lost. And I think on top of the small, you know, the smaller groups, um, there's a lot to be said for, you know, what people charge these days, you know, ethically, I, I have issues with a lot of that.
Do I think that we should have a business that makes money 1000 percent Do I think that you should charge, you know, the value of whatever it is that you're giving. Um, I look at [00:17:00] is whatever I, whatever I charge. The value of it is going to be worth 10 times that because I know then that everybody's going to get what they came for. Now I know you talk about like kind of discovering your own path to success. Like what are the first steps for people to really discover their own path? I take that back to, a couple of really core things, which is like, I call it like black sheep values because I'm, I was always the black sheep of the family, but always fairly rebellious, but you have certain core values as a person, as a human, and you have core values as a business, and most people want to tell you that those core values always overlap.
They're exactly the same thing. Not true. Some things may, go together. And I'm find when women actually sit down and look at it, they were like, Oh, but no, like I actually, this is who I am as a person. And then this [00:18:00] is who my business is. I think there's too many people teaching, that it's all one thing that you are your brand, that this is no, like you are the person that, you know, is, is changing lives and you're the face of, of your business.
But what you're serving with can be totally different. The values of what your program is, or, you know, like the revolt has. It's not the same as another program that I did five years ago. Like it's just totally different and allowing yourself to kind of look at core values first is number one because It's a skipped foundation that I think too many coaches now we'd like to, go right over all the foundational stuff because it's not sexy.
We want to skip right to the, how many clients can I get? How much money can I make? And we want to skip the basics. And I, I'm a basics person. I think it's important to kind of know who you are, which I think, especially in this You know, the podcast really having moms listen to it. I think a lot of [00:19:00] us have lost who we are or have changed who we used to be, you know, like I am not the same person that I was before kids and.
Honestly, I don't really want to be that person anymore. I feel like I've evolved. I'm a lot different. And my values have changed a bit too. So yeah, I think discovering that for who you are in the moment and now is, is important before you kind of venture onto some of the other stuff. Yeah, and understanding that that's like 100 percent normal, like even as an age level, like I am, you know, older, and so I have a different aspect.
I'm the same core values are the same, but the way I think about things is a little different at this point, the way I've always been super expressive. I say it how it is like that hasn't changed, but I can tell you that you can, you know, lose yourself, like they say, lose yourself in motherhood and kind of not know who you are anymore, but you can also lose yourself in the [00:20:00] online space, trying to figure out and letting the space try to dictate to you what that looks like for you.
I know because. I let it do, I'm a strong person. I'm a strong-willed person and it still happened to me. So it can happen to anyone. Any person can be somehow, pulled in, manipulated to think that there, I was told by a coach that I am not feminine enough and so women will never want to coach with me.
Meanwhile, I had already coached people, I had already had a business with women that came back year after year, , and so, but I let her tell me that that was a thing. And somehow tried to then change what I was saying, what I was doing that I needed to learn about manifest state, like all these things that really weren't.
Even interested. Like they didn't go with what I coached. They didn't go with who I was. Not that there's a problem with them, but I just kind of allowed that to seep in. So that's the second thing is, is that you starting to feel like you you're changing. You're not really staying [00:21:00] true to who you are and your thoughts and the things and you're not expressing yourself because you're afraid of how you're saying things isn't looking the right way.
Then I can tell you that's like a surefire way to know that the online spaces is It's kind of taking you over a bit. For me, I had to take a step back when I, when I realized that I actually ended the program that I had and closed it down. I stopped coaching for a year and a half and just said, this isn't right.
Like it's, it's not right for me even. And I tried in between there, right? Like you're trying to put stuff out and you're trying to hear your voice. And I'm like, this still doesn't feel right. Like something is still not right. I had to figure that out. And the funny part was, is it was truly just getting back.
It was like going backwards. I would like what I asked myself, what would my 12 year old self would have done? Because when I was 12, I moved out, like I started living with friends from the time I was 12. And I remember the day I told my mom I was moving out at 12 years old. And I just said to her, like, there's absolutely no way you're going to tell me, no, this [00:22:00] is what I'm doing.
This is how I'm doing it. I was just that person. And I'm like, where is that person? Like I lost that person. Where is it? I need it back. So that was my focus on figuring out who I am. What I want to do, how I want to do it, and taking that 12 year old and looking at me now and kind of figuring out what that meant.
Okay, well, that 12 year old moving out, that just frightens me totally, Mom. But good for you, and good for you that you found that. You know, that spunk that confidence, honestly, to put it into your now as you're older and using it for, you know, good, normal, normal stuff, normal stuff, yes. So tell us about the revolt.
You mentioned it briefly. What is that? And yeah, tell us all about it. So that process basically is exactly, it came about from exactly what, what I just said. So it's like a perfect segue. So when I was going through that [00:23:00] process of going, figuring out what was going on and figuring out what was happening and being really mad at myself for being like, how did I let this person say that this was wrong with me or that I should do this or that I should, I was never like, I'm going through that process and I'm thinking and I'm like, Oh my God.
And I'm like, All the things that I learned all the things that I took in all of the, different aspects of figuring out who you are and what your purpose is. And, you know, I must suck. I must not be good at anything. All those things that happen in that middle of that time. I'm like, asking myself again.
What does this mean? What does this mean? And I'm like, finally, I had just said to myself, Oh, my God, like, I just need to revolt against all of this stuff. And I went, that's what I'm doing right now. Holy crap. Like, And then I sat down and I mapped out like what was the process that I just started going through and trying to really think about because you don't realize it when you're going through the moment.
I'm not a big journaler. But if you're a person who journals, you have access to go back and kind of look at those things. I'm not a big journaler. So I had to [00:24:00] like Mentally continue to think about what was going on, what was going on and kind of give myself like the cliff notes version of what I had just gone through to map it out.
And in the revolt, like, it just stuck. I was like, this is what I'm doing. I'm revolting against. What happened, what I allowed to happen. I can't blame that on anyone. I, I let this happen. I'm revolting against the online space and in the fact that it's happening to so many women, some of them not even knowing that it's happening because you don't realize it until you're through it and.
I'm pushing back like this is what I'm doing. I'm revolting against this, like, no, and I'm speaking out against it. I'm going to, I'm going to say the things that I'm thinking when I'm reading things, I'm going to say those things. And that is how the revolt started. And kind of what it morphed into of.
Women really just wanting to be able to do the same thing like I think so many of us go through so many programs and so many things we read so many [00:25:00] books and we just are like, I don't even know what to do now. I don't know what to do now. And this is where we talk about the basics again it's literally taking it back to some very
foundational basics and.
Then the biggest thing that I tell women is, is great. We've done all this work. Now the hard part comes now. You actually have to use your voice. Now you actually have to, you know, take the steps because nothing happens without action. There's too much. I don't, I'm going to say this in a, not in a negative fashion, just cause I don't know the other word.
There's too much woo woo stuff that lacks the action behind it. All of that stuff's great. But if you do nothing. It does nothing. You move nowhere and we stay in that perpetual, you know, hamster wheel of just trying to figure out where we're going constantly. Like I wanted off that wheel and too many women that were reading what I was saying at that time was like, I want off this wheel.
Like, I didn't [00:26:00] realize I was on this wheel. Like, get me off, get me off. And I'm like, that's what I knew. I'm like. This is it. This is like, this is the the thing that is the revolt. So are people joining?
Like, how do you join the revolt? How do you become part of the revolt? So the actual revolt program I, I have, let's see, when did it end? I haven't ran another one because again, it's, it's, For me, I have to, I have to be really like ready to say the things and do the things and And be dedicated to those six people because I give a lot like between it's not just calls.
It's, you know, being accessed on, you know, different channels and having access to me all the time. 24 seven like I don't give, I don't say like, you can't have access to me this times or whatever I I'm a full access person which is why small is important. So I have to be able to give. 100%. So the revolt program I run normally and that's, I started it out at eight [00:27:00] weeks but realized that I needed 12 because of the length of the work sometimes for people.
It's, it's It's not easy to get through things. Sometimes people need extra time. Sometimes people just need a break, like give me a break for a week. So I pushed it to, you know, 12 weeks and it became doable and everybody was there. And so we have like the alumni that have gone through it, that still stay connected in our channels.
And that's kind of how it rolls out. So normally when I'm like, Yay, I'm ready to do this. It. It happens instantaneously. instantaneously, and I'm like, let's do it. It happens and then we roll. So I know it's a little different for some people when they're like, you can come on a podcast and be like, Oh, I can join your program.
I'm selling you something. I'm not selling you anything. What I'm selling you is, is yourself. Like let's just find that. And then that's the most important part. Like the rest of it. Is, you know, completely irrelevant. So it's a little odd. And I love about you right now is that I [00:28:00] think a lot of us think we have to have all these plans.
Like if I'm going to do a program, like it has to be planned out and I have to have it all together. And what I'm hearing from you is actually like, Oh, do you want it in a few weeks? I'm, you know, I'm going to feel when it's ready, you know, like it doesn't have to be perfect. And even the point of it was eight weeks, but then you decided you needed 12.
You know what? You can change it. Like, I love that it's this process. We don't have to have it all figured out and we can change and grow and, and just do it as it comes. Like, I feel like that's where a lot of us get stuck because we don't have all the pieces. So we don't decide to go anywhere. Yeah, I think that if you have.
The foundation of, and, and I'm a big, like, again, simple, there does not need to be 40 steps. There does not like simple, can you move somebody through five steps that gets them from here to here? Very simple people, like simple [00:29:00] people, like real people like you to, to show up and be who you are. And like, you know, it's one thing to like.
Say, I think there's too many people that say, Oh, this is the coach that gets people results. I don't get you your results. You create your results. I am there to kind of, and I always laugh. People say I'm there to walk with you. I I'm not the walk with you. This is where the, the, uh, straight talk comes. I'm that girl.
That's like standing on the edge of the cliff with you. That's like holding your pants to push you over. Like when you're ready to jump, I'll jump with you. But like, that's where we are. We're at that point. , but I can't do anything for anyone. I can say to you and most of the time, this is what women, some women come to me and they say, you're just this much, you know, almost too aggressive for me, but it's what I need.
I need somebody to push me. Right. So I'm like, sign up. You're perfect. I'm here to hear what you're saying, but I'm also here to tell you, the thing that you don't want to be told, which, you know, all girlfriends are like, we have girlfriends that tell us the things we want to hear every single [00:30:00] day.
That's not what I want. Like, I need somebody to tell me, hey, listen, you need to be quiet. You're just. You're, you're acting like an idiot, like, okay, you know, I don't, I need that. So for me, it's important to, to give that to other women that might not be getting that, because those are the things that push us to do the hard things that push us to just take that one little step.
Because I think too often, we think we need to like. Leap. We need to jump from this mountain to the next. Actually, what you need to do is take baby steps and kind of walk down the mountain, and then we'll walk back up and get to the other side. Like, that's what creates results. Not instantaneous, you know, jumping from one spot to the next.
Like, we don't, we don't sprint. Yeah. Oh, I love that. I love everything about it. Where can the listeners find you? I'm going to say this funny for all you moms. So I am on Instagram and Facebook, but my son tells me that I'm old, which is why I don't use Instagram enough. And I don't know how to use it. And I [00:31:00] also don't use Snapchat because they said I'm old.
Um, old people use Facebook clearly is what I'm getting from him. That's where I do the most of, of. My, posting and all that stuff. I am, I am on Instagram. I do follow people on Instagram, but Facebook is usually kind of where I live. Facebook is considered the older person. Now, I'm 51, just FYI.
And I am on Instagram and I do like it. So you're not too old . What would you like moms to really kind of walk away from today's conversation with? I would say it's never too early to figure it out and it's never too late to figure it out.
We always are thinking that there's somewhere that's this perfect time. There's never a perfect time and there's always a perfect time. Like, just be committed to yourself. Be be committed to kind of, just sitting back with who you
are. I would say a fun thing to do would be For me, it was 12, but maybe for you, it was 13, 14, like, find that [00:32:00] area of your life that you were like, kind of that little girl that would like, talk back to your mom or do the things that you would never do today, right?
Like, or you would never let your own child do today. Um, find that person and find the things about her that were like, That let you, you know, that lit up a room that excited people. Was she confident? Was she rebellious? Was she, did she say whatever she wanted to say? And now that's not who you, who you are.
That person is truly who you are and that those things can translate. Perfectly into your business because those are the things that make you unique and those are the things that make you stand out. You want to be seen. You want to be heard. You want to be known. That's how not by fancy colors and pretty photos and all of those things because nobody cares about that.
Yeah. And just thinking off the top of my head and like, okay, I know who I was. I was giddy. I was laughing. I was just like happy, just very fun and funny. [00:33:00] Yeah, that was my thing. But so look at that, like you're happy and you're fun. And I would say those things apply to you right now, but I would ask like in your business.
Are you, do you have the ability to feel okay to do that? Like, cause if you're a funny person, are you telling jokes? Like, are you making funny thing or do you think like for me, I like, they told me that everybody told me it's not professional, but when I, only thing I did that Snapchat was I like the filters.
So I was the coach that it was like, you're so unprofessional, you're doing cat ears with your tongue sticking out. And I'm like, but I like this and that I think it's funny. So I'm doing it. Do you like memes? And are they whatever, like, or to post GIFs, like, or GIFs, or whatever they're called, like, those are the things that, like, we kind of tend to say, oh, can't do that, not professional, I'm not showing up properly.
No, no, yeah, those are the things that, like, make you, you, I got to bring back my funny. I don't think I've been as funny as I was at that time, or laughed enough. Like, I still laugh a lot. And I am [00:34:00] lighthearted, for sure. And I definitely put that in my day to day. But I need to bring back the funny. I love that.
Bring back the funny. Yes. Bring back the, so yeah, so there you go. You can, Lisa will leave you with that. Bring back the what, insert that for you here. That's, that's the thing. So that's what I would love to hear. Like if anybody finds me. On social, I'm not going to say social on Facebook. If you find me on Facebook, I would say, I listened to the podcast and I'm bringing back the whatever.
That's what I'd love. Love to hear that. Yes. Oh, I love that too. Okay. Well, thank you so much for this chat. It was, it was perfect, honestly. I don't know what to say, but it was exactly what I needed to hear today. And I hope everybody else needed it too. Yes, it was so much fun. This was, um, the moms speaking to moms is not something I get to do enough, but I realized that it's fun.
